On last month’s episode of Fleur De Fat…

I wrote about what I had in mind for finding my dream wedding dress: a day I have dreamt about almost as much as the wedding day itself. Luckily for me, it lived up to my expectations (just a much hotter, sweatier version than I imagined because the AC was broken, but it ended up being just fine). 

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Honestly, I felt kind of guilty at first for not shopping locally for my wedding dress, but I am so glad that I made the two hour trip to Indianapolis to shop at a boutique that specializes in plus sizes. They had a beautiful space and a wide selection (no pun intended). I never for one second felt that I was lacking in options, which is something that I had feared. The consultant was extremely helpful and knew exactly what I had in mind from my description. The one thing that I really liked about the entire experience was that she never mentioned a size. I told her what I usually wear in street sizing and she went from there. I know that formalwear is usually made a few sizes smaller so I didn’t want to feel any negative thoughts about a higher number and I didn’t have to worry about that because it was never even mentioned. I felt beautiful and uplifted the entire time I was there by both the consultant, and everyone that I had brought with me to shop: my mom, my best man, Jacob, who most of you know as JCP Eats, my future mother-in-law and sister-in-law, and mine and Alex’s friend and groomswoman, Becca. I knew that I could count on them to encourage me to make the right decision. I only tried on four dresses before finding “the one.” The first one I tried on I loved and so did my mom and Jacob, but I didn’t have that overwhelming, I can’t live without this dress sensation that I had been longing for, so I kept trying and I’m glad I did. 

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Through my trying on experience, I mostly felt like a balance between a little girl when my mom would put me in frilly tulle dresses that were heavy and I would say “this is itchy, mom” and I hated wearing them for long periods of time, and a bride. One thing plus size bridal designers haven’t quite figured out is arm proportion. Pro tip: if I’m big everywhere else, I am probably going to have big arms as well. I’m sure in some of the pictures from the experience you can see me awkwardly posing with my arms outward instead of with my signature hands-on-hips pose. Some styles and fabrics definitely worked better for me than others and I was glad to have the chance to try varying ones, from classic and traditional to modern and sleek. All and all, I would say that I had a VERY positive experience wedding dress shopping and it wasn’t at all stressful because I knew that once I found the one, I would know, and I did, tears and all. Of course, I’m not going to give away the final choice because that’s a secret that’s going to be kept under wraps until the big day, but I promise y’all it’s fabulous and I feel fabulous in it (and somehow stayed under budget).

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I know and respect that marriage and weddings aren’t for everyone, so I really appreciate everyone reading about my experiences. Until next time…

Xo, 

Shelby 

Photo Credit: JC Phelps

Follow more of Shelby’s journey of body positivity HERE!

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