It’s New Years Day 2018, and I am proud to say that I have finally become smart enough to purchase food and have it on hand so I can eat when I am famished* from going out the night before.
I re-posted a photo on Instagram today that said, ” Self Care Tip- Unfollow every account that makes you feel like you need to be someone else.” That brings me to the subject of my first blog post for this year.
I spent this New Year’s Eve in a sea of people I didn’t know, all wearing masks. (Props to the guy with the Batman one) The masquerade theme seemed to be pretty prominent for the 2018 NYE parties. Jokingly, I mentioned how bad it must be to be there as a single woman looking for a man when you couldn’t see his face. Are you attractive? Are you a serial killer? I don’t know, I just know you’re wearing a hockey mask with a tuxedo. Can you get me a drink?
But what about the masks we wear on a daily basis? Sure, it’s fun to dress up for a theme party and hide behind one for the night, but what are you hiding behind when the clock strikes midnight, the countdown is over, and you’ve spilled your champagne? What social media accounts are we following that make us feel like we need to be “someone else”? Why are we so afraid to be ourselves?
I’m here to tell you that starting this year, starting now, it’s time to take off your mask. Whoever you are trying to be, or have been trying to be, take it off. The party is over, and that’s okay. Despite what we see on social media, not everything is the way that it seems, and it’s okay. It’s okay if you don’t look like her, her mask might be made of teeth whiteners, spray tans, and plastic surgery. It’s okay if you don’t lift as much as him, he might be on supplements or yo-yo diets. It’s OKAY if you’re not super mom who has it all together after a ridiculously long week of carpools, birthday parties, and playdates. She might have a mask made of wine and Xanax. It’s okay if you’re not the perfect student, girlfriend, wife, mother, friend, child. It’s okay. What we need to learn and live, is that we need to take off the masks we wear on a daily basis where we try to be someone else, and not be authentically ourselves. When you take the masks off and expose who you really are, that’s when you’ll be able to open up more to others, love more freely, and enjoy the imperfectness that is life.
The issue with social media, and “posting” our lives, is that everyone can hide behind some sort of mask. The “I’m so happy” mask. The “I have it all together” mask. The “My life is better than yours” mask. we spend so much time looking at everyone else, that we end up not liking who we are, or what our lives consist of, and that’s just silly. No one has your life., your motives, your goals, your responsibilities, your stories. Not anyone but you…
So for this year, I encourage you to take off the mask that you have been wearing. The one where you are trying to impress others, show off, be perfect, and especially the ones where you are comparing yourself to others, and pretending to be someone you are not. The performance is draining your minds, bodies, and souls. For 2018, I encourage you to be authentically YOU.
As for myself, I’m going to finish this pizza and wine and be happy sitting here with my animals and catching up on Game of Thrones. There’s no mask on me tonight.