Mother’s Day is an extra special day. Because, no matter who you are on this planet, you were brought into this world by a woman, your mother, who chose to give birth to you. It is the ultimate gift, this gift of life, that anyone can bestow on a person. You can’t buy it, you can’t ask for it, and while there is no need to ‘repay’ it, you couldn’t do that even if you tried. So how do you honor the person that chose to bring you into this amazing life?
Let me first preface that just because you were brought into this world by a woman who will forever be called your mother, that doesn’t mean that she is a good mother. Giving birth to someone doesn’t constitute that she is ‘there’ for that person throughout their lives. And there are many people who, while they were given life by one woman, they were raised and learned about this life from someone else. And those women need to be honored as well. Being given life and being taught how to live are both invaluable and need to be recognized as such. You can’t have one without the other.
Let’s look at some statistics. The probability of your mom meeting your dad are 1 in 20,000. This is multiplied by the chances of them staying together long enough to have a child (1 in 2,000). Now things get interesting. The chances of your dad’s sperm meeting up with your mom’s egg at just the right time are 1 in 400,000,000,000,000,000 (that’s 1 in 400 quadrillion ). Things get even more complicated here but suffice it to say that the overall odds of you existing at all comes out to a staggering 1 in 10 to the power of 2,685,000 (that’s a 10 followed by 2,685,000 zeros). That is nearly ZERO CHANCE.
No matter what kind of a relationship you have with your birth mother, you need to recognize what she did for you, and you need to realize that you wouldn’t have anything that you do today if you weren’t alive. So if you have a poor relationship with your mother today, hold any negative feelings for her, or just aren’t close with her, today is a wonderful day to put those feelings aside, exercise a bit of forgiveness (for YOUR sake) and genuinely thank her for giving you life.
I think that it’s really important to do this. Forgiveness is an extremely powerful thing. And while most people think that it is meant for the person that you’re forgiving, the reality is that it is for you. Because when you forgive someone, you are relieving yourself of the bondage that negative feelings have over you. You may not think that it affects you in your day-to-day life, but it does.
So on this day of all days, if you’re lucky enough to that your mom is still alive, reach out to her and tell her how you feel. Actively forgive her (if that’s something you need to do) and thank her for giving you life. Because you wouldn’t be able to do any of the amazing things you do today if you weren’t here. And it’s a pretty amazing thing that you’re here at all.