What if someone called you ‘arrogant’ or that you ‘took too much for granted’? What would you think about having that label placed on you? Would you question what you did to incite that sort of description? You probably should, especially if you’re starting to take into account what I talked about in agreement one and two previously…
Welcome to #TheDailyYes. The idea is simple- we are sharing some of the quotes, phrases, and pearls of wisdom that have helped us throughout the years.
A few simple words can completely change the way a person thinks about things. A person’s success, self-worth, and impact on the world can be completely attributed to the way he or she thinks about things.Jason Mudd, Executive Officer
This brings us to the third agreement in Don Miguel Ruiz’s book The Four Agreements: don’t make assumptions. And I’ve got to say- I’m so happy I’m revisiting this book right now. It’s quite appropriate for what’s going on in my life at the moment- I’m so grateful for the ability to recognize these moments and act in ways to maximize everything.
A long-time friend, who is more like a mentor to me, told me when I was probably 15 “when you assume something it makes an ass out of you and me”. I have never forgotten those words. I have learned the hard way that making assumptions of anything is both lazy and selfish. It says to the world ‘what I want is more important, I know it is, and I’m not even going to ask you’.
Do you know what the worst part of this is? I can only speak for me- so if you’re like me then this would apply to you as well: I don’t think what I want is more important. In all actuality, the narrative in my head probably skews more to what other people want than it should. And I’m also not saying that anyone should be untrue with themselves. What I’m saying is that anytime there is something involving another person or persons, ask and communicate before deciding or making up your mind.
It sounds super simple but I have to continually remind myself of this. Don’t make assumptions. About anything.
I also want to know what simple phrases, quotes, or other pearls of wisdom have positively impacted your life. I’m going to pick a guest contributor one day a week so that we can keep this lively from a perspective sense. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. I appreciate your thoughts!