Valentine’s Day is the one day of the year that everyone is focused on love and relationships. If you recently broke up with someone or you are having trouble finding love, Valentine’s Day brings these issues front and center for you. This is the one day of the year that our entire society makes our romantic disappointments rise to the surface and sting like a thousand needles.

I remember Valentine’s Day when I was in my teens. I would feel so lonely and, quite frankly, downright depressed. I remember thinking that all I wanted was someone to love and to be loved in return. That wasn’t asking so much, right? 

I finally got into a relationship in my early 20s. We had a lot in common and we enjoyed being with each other. She was five years older than I was and she had been married before. He left her for a younger woman and that shook her confidence and self esteem. She didn’t tell me this but, as she fell deeper in love with me, she developed stronger and stronger anxiety that I would leave her like her ex-husband did. The week before Valentine’s Day, she broke up with me. She said she couldn’t handle the fear of getting hurt again.

Even though I hadn’t done anything wrong and I knew she loved me very much, it still hurt like Hell. I had never been broken up with before and the pain of that experience was excruciating in a way transcends any other kind of pain. 

As difficult as Valentine’s Day can be, it is absolutely possible to overcome these feelings of loneliness and sadness. My favorite method for dealing with negative emotions of all kinds is EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique). EFT is a natural method of neutralizing negative emotions and thought patterns by using acupressure and cognitive behavioral therapy. It involves tapping certain places on your face multiple times (acupressure points) and saying things related to the issue.I’ve written two special EFT scripts to help you feel better this Valentine’s Day. One deals with feeling lonely and the other deals with having gone through a breakup.

The Valentine’s Day EFT Script

Think about what makes you sad and or lonely on Valentine’s Day. Rate it on a scale of 1-10 with 10 being the most upset you could possibly feel and 1 being just barely upset. Make a note of this number.

Follow along with the script. If you are comfortable doing so, say what you see here out loud. if you aren’t comfortable with that, just think the words as you read them.

**Be sure to tap the points repeatedly as you read the line for each given point. It doesn’t matter which hand you use or which side of the body you tap on.

Tap the side of the hand point repeatedly while saying, “Even though I’m feeling (describe how you feel) because it’s Valentine’s Day and that just reminds me that I’m alone, I deeply and completely accept myself anyway. Even though I’m feeling (describe how you feel) because it’s Valentine’s Day and I’m alone, again, it seems like everyone else has someone, why can’t I find love? I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway and I choose now to feel surprisingly calm and relaxed about this.”

Tap the top of the head point repeatedly while saying – It’s Valentine’s Day and I’m feeling (describe how you feel).

Tap the eyebrow point repeatedly while saying – I’m all alone again.

Tap the side of the eye point repeatedly while saying – Everyone else has love, why can’t I?

Tap the under the eye point repeatedly while saying – Why does love always have to be so hard for me?

The the under the nose point repeatedly while saying – I just want to love and be loved.

Tap the chin point repeatedly repeatedly while saying – Is that really asking so much?

Tap the collar bone point repeatedly while saying – It’s Valentine’s Day and I’m feeling so (describe how you feel).

Tap the top of the head point repeatedly while saying – But I wonder if I could feel more relaxed about this.

Tap the eyebrow point repeatedly while saying – How? I’m so (describe how you feel)!

Tap the side of the eye point repeatedly while saying – Yes and I have every right to feel that way.

Tap the under the eye point repeatedly while saying – But I wonder if I could let myself feel more relaxed and at ease?

The the under the nose point repeatedly while saying – Today is Valentine’s Day and that makes these feelings more prominent.

Tap the chin point repeatedly repeatedly while saying – But I know I’ll be feeling better once it’s over.

Tap the collar bone point repeatedly while saying – I give myself permission to feel better about this now.

Tap the top of the head point repeatedly while saying – Feeling more and more at ease with every breath I take.

Tap the eyebrow point repeatedly while saying – I will find love one day, when it’s right for me.

Tap the side of the eye point repeatedly while saying – I’m alright and I choose to feel even more at ease now.

Tap the under the eye point repeatedly while saying – Feeling better and better with every beat of my heart.

The the under the nose point repeatedly while saying – Feeling more and more at ease with every breath I take.

Tap the chin point repeatedly repeatedly while saying – I release and let go

Tap the collar bone point repeatedly while saying – Of all the ways and reasons any part of me might still be feeling (describe how you felt when you started) and I choose now to feel at peace.

Take a deep breath and let your mind settle. Recite your phone number backward. Think about Valentine’s Day and see how you feel. Compare your level of upset on the scale of 1-10 with the number you had when you started. You should feel better and more at ease.

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